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Mother of the Groom Duties for the Wedding

A wedding role guide for the groom’s mom.

Mother of the Groom DutiesMany think the mother of the groom just has to show up, but today the MOG has become more involved, as the wedding has become a joint effort and is no longer the sole responsibility of the bride’s family. Here’s a general guide for what to expect as the mother-of-the-groom (MOG)

- Meet and Greet – If the bride’s mom hasn’t called a month after the engagement to set up a time to meet your family, then it’s appropriate for you to call and offer to have a meet and greet at your place. Offering to have the bride’s family to dinner or for coffee and cake is proper.

- Prepare Guest List – Compile a guest list from your side of the family. Consult with the bride and groom on budget and space limitations.

- Offer Financial Assistance – Be aware of the expenses from the groom’s side and offer assistance if you can.

- Pick your Attire – Traditionally the bride’s mom will contact you at least six months before the wedding to let you know what style of dress she has picked. Take your cue from her and pick something different but of the same trend.Find out if she plans to wear a different dress at the ceremony and the reception. Try to coordinate your gown to complement the colour of the wedding party.Don’t pick the same colour as the MOB. Buy your gown four to six months before the wedding.

- Attend Pre-PartiesHost the rehearsal party and be available to attend the engagement party, bridal shower or any other event the bridal couple requests you be present at. Help out with the organization of the events, if asked.

- Host the Rehearsal Dinner – Consult the bridal couple first and make sure you both agree on the venue, date and time. Be prepared to plan, host and finance the event.

- Lend a Hand – Offer to assist with wedding planning tasks but don’t force yourself on the bridal couple. Take your cue from them, if they need your help they won’t hesitate to take it.

- Spread the Word - Obtain information on where the couple is registered and let your guests know if they ask.

- Call Late RSVPs –Offer to make calls to obtain last-minute responses for anyone on your guest list, three to four weeks before the wedding.

- At the Reception – Stand in the receiving line with the groom’s father; after the bride and groom.

- Dance – At the reception, dance with the groom during the mother/son dance.