Sums up the problem.

I hate him, he makes me nervous, the man is simply trying to ruin everything.

First, he always takes my fiance out, gets him wasted and then He comes home(Fiance) either with bruises or something stupid. Besides that He(Best Man) doesnt care if they get hurt or not!

Second, he always nag at me because I complain too much and I never allow my fiance to do anything. Who does that?

Third, He tells my fiance to not get married..to me

Who does that? This man I just can not stand. I tried talking to my fiance but guess what he says, "He's my buddy.. I know him for so long.. Oh he doesnt mean it I cant take him out he's like a brother, hes just hurt blah blah blah." Yeah right!!!

Honestly, I dont want him in the wedding party. Flat out I want to kick him out, but I cant because he's my fiance's best friend he "HAS TO STAY"..
Im not the type to get mad easily but this guy.. oh I cant not how much I dont like him.

On top of it all, His best man planned a trip to go I dont even know because he doesnt want to tell me, it may ruin the surprise! What Surprise!! Like this I cant handle, Im at the point Im giving up.

I feel like Im dealing with little kids! Please tell me someone else have to deal with this crap??

Honestly thats a really hard one! Im not going to lie.

I mean the guy seems to be a total Tool.. I say you should tell your fiance its either you or him.. choose.. no you cant do that.. haha!

I think that maybe you should talk about it sit him down and be like come on this needs to stop!

Thanks, Veneziia

I tried to talk to him last night but once again he has given me the same excusses. I do not know what to do anymore!! I'm at the point where I want this to end, because of his friend. Ive been with my fiance for 4 years and I don't want to give up but this man is just a complete idiot!

Hey this friend feels threatened by you...it's a power struggle with him. My guess he is doesn't have a significant other in his life. He doesn't want to lose his buddy so he constantly challenges him to make choices between you and him...secretly hoping you'll break up. Don't give up just yet.... I know your fiance friend knows you don't like him but secretly he wants your approval because that would secure him a place in the future with his buddy (your fiance). Use reverse psychology - try and be nice to the friend, let him think you like him and you should notice that this guy will start to please you. Yes, he will want you to continue to like him so he'll start to do things to keep you happy. Sounds crazy, I know but it's worth a try. I have seen this work before.

Have you tried something with a personal touch... like a lap dance? I guarantee the guy will like you after that!! No seriously you should just let your fiance know how you feel. Maybe even talk to the guy and let him that even though his friendship with your fiance is changing because he's getting married it's not a bad thing!! Maybe he's just afraid that his friend is going to just desert him and he just needs some reaasuring. Whatever the outcome just remember he loves you and you shouldn't let this guy ruin your day!!

I know, I do not want to end it but its been extremely hard. Last night I was sitting with my fiance and I asked him how did his "trip" went. He was silent. I'm worried, I mean I just wondering whether its too late, is it all my fault? I mean Ive tried being nice to this guy, he just doesnt like me. Im trying my best for this to happen before it falls apart.

I was thinking about going away for the weekend with my fiance and just us too. You think thats a good idea?

mmv wrote:Hey this friend feels threatened by you...it's a power struggle with him. My guess he is doesn't have a significant other in his life. He doesn't want to lose his buddy so he constantly challenges him to make choices between you and him...secretly hoping you'll break up. Don't give up just yet.... I know your fiance friend knows you don't like him but secretly he wants your approval because that would secure him a place in the future with his buddy (your fiance). Use reverse psychology - try and be nice to the friend, let him think you like him and you should notice that this guy will start to please you. Yes, he will want you to continue to like him so he'll start to do things to keep you happy. Sounds crazy, I know but it's worth a try. I have seen this work before.

Um.. Im going to pass the lap dance! haha!

Yeah we've talked plenty of times! We just hate each other, he makes me so sick to my stomach. My wedding is in three months and all I am worried about is if Im actually going to get married. Ive been crying the whole weekend, my fiance was gone for a couple of days with him and I was just so worried.
I don't know what to do anymore.

bradadams wrote:Have you tried something with a personal touch... like a lap dance? I guarantee the guy will like you after that!! No seriously you should just let your fiance know how you feel. Maybe even talk to the guy and let him that even though his friendship with your fiance is changing because he's getting married it's not a bad thing!! Maybe he's just afraid that his friend is going to just desert him and he just needs some reaasuring. Whatever the outcome just remember he loves you and you shouldn't let this guy ruin your day!!

Do you trust your fiance?

I do trust him, its just how can I TALK to him about this?

mmv wrote:Do you trust your fiance?