I have been very clear with people about bringing small children to my wedding reception and I have talked about it at length with my maid of honor because I have a few family members and friends with very very hyper children and she agreed that it's my day and people should respect what I want but apparently she thinks that these rules do not apply to her and she wants to bring her 3 children all under the age of 4 and her kids are among the ones who are completely out of control what should I do? I don't want to hurt anyones feeling and I can't tell her yes and no to everyone else.

Help!!

I think you answered your question.
Politely tell her that you cannot have her children at the wedding without offending others, with children. Tell her its something you cannot make an exception to because others would like to bring their children and you have told them no children are being invited. They will think its unfair just as she would if you made an exception for some and not for others.

NO children mean NO children...just tell your maid of honour thats the way you want it to be. It is actually very rude of her to expect to bring them!

Ok let's fast forward 4 years from now, shall we? Who is going to have small children? Ding, ding, ding, that's right: you. Now, how well off do you think you will be financially? Well enough to afford a babysitter for a night that belongs to the entire family? Look, she's a mom. Trust me, she knows a LOT more than you about kids, and if they get out of control she can manage them. At the end of the day those are the facts, the wedding is your job, her kids are hers. Until then you've got other things to stress out about, like fitting into your dress...good luck, sugar.

Sass we need to go for coffee...lol

Can I add to that.....If you don't want children (which you have every right to ask that) don't ask people with kids to be in your wedding party.

We all want to have our cake and eat it too...

If your maid of honour has no alternatives then maybe you could help her out or hire and baby sitting services for your wedding. They will set up an area at the venue and will keep the kids entertained and fed for the entire evening.....That's is also a way of giving back...

parents will have fun and you will have piece of mind

Diana,

Normally I'm not one to pick up random ladies in a wedding planner website, but oddly enough its not the strangest thing to ever happen to me. Now really, this broad needs to chill before she turns into those bridezillas you see on TLC. Or, I mean, so I've heard...

After all, her main concern should be not tripping as she walks down the aisle. As hilarious as that would be, I think she would find it worse than a few small children. What does she have to worry about? Its not like Michael Jackson will show up. (What? Too soon?)

I don't think the bride is responsible for worrying about her friends babysitting woes.
If money is the issue for the maid-of-honour and she cannot afford a babysitter, how will she be able to afford the cost of the plates for each child she brings? -It's a lot cheaper, I would think, to have a babysitter at her home. (I hope no one thinks the bride should be absorbing the cost of the children's plates)
Let's look at it from another perspective - maybe the bridal couple have limited seats available and they want to invite other guests but because they have these extra children they cannot.
It's their day - and they should have the right to invite who they want to their wedding. Just my opinion, but I am with the bride on this one!

Sass you are so sassy..lol.....and so right....Hey where r u from?

Now MMV the Bride can do what ever she likes (just like the song)

We make considerations for those that are vegetarians ETC...but we can make a consideration for kids.


It may not be the responsibility of the Bride to get a sitter for the Maid of Honour...but if you ask an individual who has three childred to be there for you that day (But by the way I dont want your kids to participate) then she should assit her in making arrangements. It would just be the right thing to do expecially if its a family member or a friend....

Woah, woah, woah. We make exceptions for vegetarians now? I have an alternative to meat: GO HUNGRY. People CHOOSE to be lame (aka vegetarians), but we don't choose to be kids. Trust me, if I could have jumped to 19, I would have. On that note, if I could have stayed 19, I would have done that too, but I digress...

This bride needs to calm down. Seriously. If she keeps stressing she'll start eating and get too fat for her dress. Let's face it: that's her #1 priority right now.

the posts in here are funny...sassmaster is such a sassy person...i seriously do feel for the bride.

Funny the bride never responded. I wonder what her thoughts are now?

The bride is feverishly taking notes on everything I said, and scanning other topics for more wisdom that I have passed down.

You're welcome.

And you , Sass, are extremly cocky...OPPS i meant to say full of yourself

which makes me believe you are a man....

Thanks for the advice everyone! The biggest reason I stressed about small children was because it was advice from my MOH!! I had not even thought about it with the million other things I am doing for my wedding. She had said that it would be so stressful for me to have this kids there because they really are hyper and that it would be thoughtless of their parents to bring them and I should just make it clear that the smaller children should stay at home. If I knew that she was going to be such a hypocrite or if it was going to be such a big deal I would not have said anything! It's not like I have anything against these children some of them are my nieces and nephews. Is it too late to tell people children are more then welcome?

Well does she have anyone to watch them? Other then that you should ask nicely about her children. I mean it should be fair for everyone, tell her that HER children shouldnt come.

rachelwilson wrote:I have been very clear with people about bringing small children to my wedding reception and I have talked about it at length with my maid of honor because I have a few family members and friends with very very hyper children and she agreed that it's my day and people should respect what I want but apparently she thinks that these rules do not apply to her and she wants to bring her 3 children all under the age of 4 and her kids are among the ones who are completely out of control what should I do? I don't want to hurt anyones feeling and I can't tell her yes and no to everyone else.

Help!!