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Guide to Writing Your Wedding Vows

Writing your own vows is a unique way to personalize your wedding. It might not be the simplest of tasks, but here are few tips to help you write yours.

Tip 1: First things first, find out if your partner is okay with personalizing their wedding vows. Be understanding if your fiancé doesn’t want to participate. There’s already enough happening on your wedding day and worrying about writing vows may only add to the stress. Consider writing your vows together.  

Tip 2: Speak with your officiant and make sure it’s okay to say your own vows. (Some religions require you use traditional wording, but may also allow you to say personal ones.)  

Tip 3: It doesn’t have to be long. The longer you make it, the more you have to memorize. Sometimes keeping it short and sweet is more effective and will leave a lasting impression with your guests.  

Writing Vows
Just like your favourtive movie, vows have a beginning, middle and an end.  

The Beginning –
Say your name, her/his name and your purpose for marriage.  

Example – I (name) promise to take (her/his name) as my wife (husband) and lifelong partner in marriage.  

The Middle – Say what the marriage means to you.  

Example – Today I marry my best friend, the one I live for because the world seems brighter. From the first moment I met you, I knew we were meant to be together. Every day I think about you and smile because you bring such joy to my life and to those around you.  

The End – Say your promises and acknowledge your never-ending commitment.  

Example – Thank you for taking me as I am; loving me and welcoming me into your heart. I promise to always love you, respect you as an individual, and to be faithful to you forever. Today I choose you to be my partner, and commit myself to you for the rest of my life.      

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